i've had my share of serious relationships.. i've been in 2 that lasted over a year, and 1 that lasted 3. The only one that satisfied me sexually was the one that lasted 3... but the sex was the only thing about it that was at all healthy. so are you trying to tell me that the reason the 3 year one lasted longer is because we had good sex?? if so, then that's just awful.. i feel sick to my stomach. we fought constantly and now he only calls me for booty calls in the middle of the night.. so your basically saying that i have to choose between good sex or being happy? because i'm never going to find the "perfect" guy.. that satisfies me in everyway. i'm trying to look at this logically and there's positives and negatives about everyone and his only negative is that he doesn't measure up.. shouldn't i be happy that that's the only thing wrong with him? my last relationship was 3 years.. and was completely about control, we had great sex, but unless we were sleeping or having sex we fought constantly. that relationship probably took years off my life, and i feel as if the one im in right now is adding years to it. this is naive.. i need to look at the "bigger" things in life. he's a great guy, he makes me happy, i can be my complete self around him, i can look into his eyes for days and not say a word and not a thing about it would be awkward, the sound of his heartbeat puts me to sleep while my exes annoyed me so much i had to move, i can cry infront of him, i can laugh my usually laugh and not hold back at all,he encourages me and i encourage him, he's always there for me no matter what, i can never stay mad at him and he can't stay mad at me, when he touches me i feel so calm and happy.. even if he just touches my hand, when i'm with him i feel like i'm in a movie, i feel like it's impossible that i'm as happy and at peace as i am, i've never felt this about anyone before him, and i hope i never do with anyone else, he's so special to me. so i'll get over his one flaw, and i will marry him. and you're all invited. especially you wolf. thank you guys, you really made me realize how i feel about him :] i read your replies like "what *******s" ahaha. made me realize i never want to lose him.
Now let me get this straight, Katie. You are 17. You have had a variety of serious sexual relationships. One lasted three years, and two lasted over one year each. When did you start having these "serious" relationships, age 11?
lol, only the 3 year one was sexually serious. and yes.. before that i made a few mistakes when i was 14.. but the 1st year relationship wasn't sexual at all. and i'll be 18 in a month.. first one was 12 to 13(no sex), then 13 to 14(mistakenly lost it..), then 15 to about 5 months ago (we were in the high triple digits). so i've tested the waters just a little.. enough to know that those relationships didn't fail or flourish because of the sex.. :]
well, i may never quite have the relationship i want without good sex.. but nobody ever has quite the relationship they want.. even if there is good sex.. and like i've said the only thing about this relationship that is lacking is the size, the sex isn't really even that bad, everything else is perfect, by my standards, so since i'm not too crazy about sex anyway, we'll be alright. and i'm infertile and cannot have children.
Interesting. You have the arrogance to demand the perfect man, someone who will love you unconditionally and offer you great sex? What do you have that's so great about you? Apart from your desires for immediate sexual gratification, do you have anything you can offer anybody?
To these men you are merely an instrument for masturbation. Unless you are educated, unless you have talents, unless you have wealth, you are nothing to anybody. You can't even bring forth a life, which is what so many strive for. To many, having a child is some sort of achievement and you can't do that.
I only hope for your case you have something more worthwhile going on then just mindless sex.
I also hope you're using some form of contraception.
The realationship you're in is destined for failure. For one, penis size matters to you and in a few years children will matter to him. Can you see yourself living with this man until you're 80? Probably not.
The idiocy of youth.