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Re: Deceptive Sexual History

Wolfie, you should just stop the charade for awhile. You might get some new ideas, like i have! :)

Also, that was way too overdramatic to warrant an oscar, no one would believe that.

You're ghey no matter what I do.

Now if you'll excuse me I have to go get sedated. It's the only way I feel alive anymore. 

Btw do you see this stuff. 

Or did you see numbers?


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i see "stuff", not numbers

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Shouldn't you all feel a great remorse for me then?

An example of remorse would be me stealing a watch and feeling bad and regretting my action, I cannot feel remorse for someone else, it's impossible.

Yes, I feel sympathy and empathic concern for you, as I do all of you guys.

Toby, that means that once I was like you. I felt just as real as you do. So even in this theory I know what I'm talking about.

See, that's what makes me not be too sure, if you truly felt our emotions, or you had previously, you'd want them, and your previous comments indicate you don't.

To see them, to know their joy, and never feel it myself.

Personally, I don't think you're a psychopath either. But I don't know.

That made me into this sexy ***** I am.

I'd love to agree... or disagree but I can only assume what you look like. And it 'aint good. :D

If you did have PTD/PTSD then it could be treated, you could be made to feel again, the world would accept you. But you can't/wont so... whatever.
It's a shame, if you lived over here it'd all be 100% free. :)

I wanted to feel pain for killing that animal.

I doubt a psychopath would care, I doubt a psychopath would want to feel. The very fact you said you'd "built an emotion wall" is highly indicative of PTSD/PTD.
You should get it check out, it's a serios possibility.

How about some donations to the help whitewolf rehabilitate foundation?

LOL I will give you £1 - $0.60. :D
Nah, I'd rather buy some gum.

Btw I'm not angry I just come across that way because I'm sarcastic and don't care.

:) You don't seem angry.

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Hexi, I'm sorry for what I said. I thought that was Tobys reply. 

Using these emotes makes me seem more human. 


We have totally derailed this thread. I'm realizing that now. 

Sorry I'll stop. 


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I think I understand you now, you just want to argue with me!

If that wasn't true then why would you feel the need to apologize to Hexi when you thought it was me?

You should have the balls to argue with Hexi, just because he's a psychopath doesn't entitle him to be free of your argumentative replys. :)

Emotes? All I am seeing is dots... :D

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Why... cause I thought you figured me out. It was like a slap in the face. Toby... figured out my trick?! Morally it was devastating cause I see you as inferior and for you to get me like that... it would have sunk my battleship.

Thankfully it was Hexi. I expected him to understand but not you. So for him to say it is no surprise but had you said it... would be devastating. 

Okay I'm stopping now. I mean it this time. LOL


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Wolfie, you should just stop the charade for awhile. You might get some new ideas, like i have! :)

You should listen to him.

I see you as inferior

If you see me as inferior, the you see yourself as superior, and that just isn't true. Come one Wolfie! Even you can't be that blind. Again, as Dr Rob said anyone who thinks they're superior is just confessing their fear of inferiority.
Don't be stupid, neither of us are "superior". Everyone has come to this conclusion even Hexi, yet you seem to be stuck on a loop, like a broken record.

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I wish we could have signatures here. Mine was "you SANK my battleship?!?!" on another forum. It just makes me laugh again and again!

EDIT: Oh, Toby, stop being so easy. It's depressing!

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Oh, Toby, stop being so easy. It's depressing!

I ain't taking that from a homo! :)

Mine was "you SANK my battleship?!?!" on another forum. It just makes me laugh again and again!

Ok... o.O
That just reminds me of old people in bingo... "You sank my battleship!". LOL

I wish we could add images, I'd use my favourite...


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One of my favourite comedians tells why it's great to be single! You should also watch his other stuff, it's great.

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He's not my favourite, but I like him. :D

I looked at some of his other videos and found this:
It's Awesome!

Especially at 0:16 seconds!

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Well Hicks and Carlin are still the best but CK, Norton and O'Neil are funny.

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They're all American! :(
I don't really like American humour, and vice versa... I assume.
I prefer British humour myself obviously, but I do like him, and the "bag of dicks" video. :D

Aren't there any good Finnish stand up comedians?

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Not really, no. My country is a depressing sea of grey, devoid of humour. Our national sport is getting drunk and beating the **** out of our wives and children.

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I can sense your strong national pride... :D

Are you a homo? I didn't mean that insultingly, but Whitewolf said you were...

EDIT: I can't help but laugh re-reading what I just put. :D

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Nah, i'm not hehe. Wolfie is just a homophobic.

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Oh right. :D

I wasn't sure how to put "Are you a homo" into the conversation without it seeming like an insult. LOL

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Oh right. :D

I wasn't sure how to put "Are you a homo" into the conversation without it seeming like an insult. LOL

Like this "do you enjoy cocks in your ass?". It's not that hard.

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Yes, because that wouldn't be awkward. :P

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Yes, because that wouldn't be awkward. :P

You should try honesty for a change. When you ask a honest and straightforward quesion you will get an answer, even if the person lies you will know. If a person says "what? what kind of a question is that?" You know they don't want to answer. If they hesitate, it's likely that they lie. If you get an "OFCOURSE NOT!" they lie. If you get "ehhh not that i know" they are not sure if they are gay. If they look away while they answer they either lie or don't know themselves. If they laugh and say no, they aren't, unless it's an awkward laugh. Seriously Toby, you need to study reactions. There is no such thing as an "awkward" question, only akward answers and that's not your fault.

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I am honest.

Of course it would be awkward if I went up to someone I barely knew and asked them If they like to **** hookers. :D

It might be different for psychopaths, but that question would be awkward for us. Like Whitewolf (or you, I forget) said, you don't feel awkward in social situations and that's how you could ask me about my preffered pornogrpahy. I didn't find that awkward to answer, but I would find it awkward to ask.

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I'm probably going to miss some of your posts for a while, I'm busy keeping up with the results of the election, I'm eager to see who's going to run my country. :D

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the point i assume hexi was making is the banality of the issue, which is rooted in society's obsession with, in this case, female sexuality.
hexi was making the point that the man's issue doesn't deserve much of a response.
i agree completely. john should get over himself.
these hang-ups are pointless and people like hexi, see that.
he didn't really mean john should commit suicide. if you don't understand irony then god help you all, you have a long way to go.

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I'm going to just ignore the off-topic posts above, but in response to your post johnj, have you asked yourself why it's so important to you how many partners she has had, and why you're finding yourself so upset with her unwillingness to tell you? Are you upset because you perceive your girlfriend to be less pure? Do you worry that if she's had more partners, you can't trust her as much (and if so, why is that?) Are you concerned about diseases? Are you upset because she's withholding information from you? What information do you feel you have a right to know about her past, and why? Also, I'm curious, why do you suspect that she has had multiple partners? Is it due to something physical you've observed, or something she may have unwittingly alluded to in casual conversation? These are things that you need to ask yourself, if you haven't already.

Your girlfriend is probably reacting so defensively because she doesn't understand why her sexual history is so important to you, and she may be afraid that you might value her less if she's had multiple partners. It's your responsibility to first clarify this issue to yourself, so that you can better explain it to your girlfriend. Then maybe you will have a better chance at having a constructive, open conversation instead of repetitive, circular fights that shut down real communication.

It might also help to ask her (without accusing or assuming anything) to clarify her own position. Why doesn't she want to tell you? Is she afraid you'll leave her? How does she feel when you ask her about her past, and does she understand why she feels this way? Does she feel that her privacy is being invaded? It's important to make sure your tone, body language, and facial expressions don't convey a sense that you're blaming or accusing her. Make it clear that you're asking in order to better understand her, not to lead her into saying something that will get her "in trouble." Maybe try to talk about this when you're both calm, and if it gets too intense, you can give yourselves time to cool off before picking up where you left off in the conversation.

One thing I would advise, is that you'll get a lot further with your conversations about this if you don't write off her reaction as "hysterical". I'm guessing you wouldn't appreciate your girlfriend dismissing your very real emotions as hysterical, irrational, or unwarranted. So she would probably appreciate if you'd take her emotions seriously, even if you're having a hard time understanding where she's coming from. She's allowed to feel angry, resentful, or defensive just as much as you are.

In the end, she has a right to withhold any information from you that she wants. You can't make her tell you, but you can make clear statements about your own feelings and about why this issue is so important to you. When I say to make clear statements about yourself, I do not mean "You make me feel angry," (she's not responsible for your emotions), I mean something more like "I feel angry when you (fill in the blank) because (explain why without blaming her for your emotion)." She may never actually tell you, and you have to decide if you can live with that or not. It's not fair to either of you if you can't stay in the relationship without harboring resentment.

One last thing. If you are concerned about sexually transmitted diseases (and no matter how much she tries to write off this concern as irrational or paranoid, it is a valid concern), you have a right to ask her to get tested if she hasn't already. She also has a right to refuse, and it's up to you to decide whether or not you can live with that. It is your responsibility to take care of your own health.

I hope you can both work this out, please do come back and post with any updates (Try not to let the off-topic posts scare you off).