I am curious as to if females are ever diagnosed a sociopath when they are not violent. All I can find is bpd. Female sociopaths are different then the males correct? I believe I know one.

Correct. From what I understand, the traits promiscuity, fatalistic dependency and attention-getting better describe the female sociopath. Not surprising that they're sooner diagnosed as bpd or hpd. I doubt many are diagnosed as psychopaths (the term sociopath is obsolete in the clinical sense), unless criminal activity leads to a forensic assessment.