My name is kevin and i have a serious problem with a break up. I have been with her for 4 years we lived together for close to 3 years. She said she needed space and i knew she was lying. She felt that we grew apart but she just grew from me. I asked if there was someone else, she said no. I give her some space but i was so hard i had to have an answer after a week. She said we should get our own places. I moved out but still started contacting her, text, call almost everyday. She then starting sleeping with another guy right away. She does not respect her body. I found out, got her to admit it, but still want her back. She has completely crushed me and she keeps lying over and over to me. She is with him almost everynight. I am obsessed with what she is doin. I can't stop bothering her. I do feel i deserve to know the truth about why we broke up and can't stop until i get the truth. What should i do?

Dear Friend,

Just try to hold dry sand with both of your hands and try pressing as much as you can. The more you will press, the more sand will fall from your hands. This is what exactly happening with you. Your ex is just like that sand, which you are trying your best to hold, but the more you try, the more you loose. You are not only loosing him more, but at the same time you are loosing your self esteem also. People who go away from your life, were actually not yours. They had a part to play in your life and their role gets over as they go away. Really believe me, no use of running after shadows. You will never be able to catch them. The more you will try to bring "The Past" back in your life, the more you will be damaging the Present and the future. Also remember one thing, the mirror in which you must be seeing your face daily, if it gets break once, can never be rectified. The crack will always remain how much you try to fill the gap.

So, just move on in life. I am sure the future will have something very good for you and is waiting for you to come and grab the happiness.

Thanks & Regards,

Ajay