We started our nudist journey nearly two decades ago. We visited nude beaches and resorts. Now do to health issues, my wife does not participate except for a skinny dip if the pool is private and secluded. So we rented a vacation house for two weeks in March which has a secluded private pool.

My wife invited her unmarried sister to join us for two nights while on vacation. I agreed to kept my clothes on for that short time. Sister in law calls back stating flights are much cheaper for a week stay. Will that be OK? Kind wife agrees....what could she do.

Now my sister in law is not a nudist and does not know we are nudists. I really do not want to be in clothes for half of my vacation.

This forum has many experienced nudists who have solved many problems. So what do we do? Tell my sister in law we are nudists? Keep our clothes on? Help!

Of course it really depends entirely upon your Sister-in-law's frame of mind/personality. Really.

Your wife can typically be the best judge of that, but if you have a frequent, close relationship with her too then you may also be able to judge along with your wife.

Is she generally open-minded, fun, type person? Or, is she typically a more serious, less open personality? ...could make a big difference upon her reception - of new ideas.

If you tell her, is she more likely to kinda smile, and ask 'are you serious', and then act like that is Your thing, and I really don't want more information or to discuss it further...

Or, is she likely to Smile, big - laugh and 'that is interesting' - literally. How long have you 'both'? been into this type lifestyle? ...followed by more questions, legitimate questions of interest - wanting to 'learn' more?

The answers to those questions should be your initial guide. ...as it would be for any person's 'assessments' of such decisions.

If she is of the 'big smile' type person, want more information - then proceed to the next Big question ...how comfortable 'would You be' IF - ....."yes, No, maybe" response??....

Let us know how it went...! Should be fun, at least to watch. LOL

Given that it's your wife's sister, it really should be her call. If she doesn't want to tell her, you certainly shouldn't.

I agree with both of the previous replies. One thing I will add. If you do decide to tell her you might approach it as, we would like to skinny dip, but don't want to make you uncomfortable. She may say, "no problem" or she might say, "only if I'm in the house." Either way, you will have a little more freedom than otherwise and you will have another person in your inner circle who knows your preference.

Hope you enjoy your vacation!

“Nothing ventured-nothing gained”. I really think you or your wife should mention to your sister-in-law, that you had especially chosen your holiday house, so that you could enjoy swimming nude. Something on the lines” It is lovely that you can join us on holiday, but you ought to know that we chose the house with a pool so that we could swim without horrible clingy wet costumes. I hope that it won’t bother you”. Don’t ask her permission, as it so easy just to say “no”. Depending on her response you can assure her that after about 5 minutes, she will hardly notice and, of course, she is under no obligation to join you unless she wants to. Hopefully she will accept the situation and I suggest that almost immediately you get to your holiday home, you go for a swim or if she travels separately, you are around the pool nude, when she arrives: the longer you put it off, the more difficult it gets.

Most of my married life I have gone around nude first thing in the morning and since I retired, I might stay like all day, if I am not going out and I am warm enough. In the past 20 years or so, I have found that if I am not completely dry after having a shower before I dress, I can trigger off eczema or a yeast infection, so going nude is the best solution. If we have visitors staying, I will warn them that they will encounter me in the nude and not one has objected. Also, our neighbours know that I go around nude, as do family, some friends and regular visitors such as the gardener or workmen, who are going to be around for some time.

P.S. In the ensuing conversation with your sister-in-law, you can mention you are nudists/naturists, which may well give you the freedom to be nude at other times. If you do nothing, you may find, that however hard to try not to, you get resentful.

Thank all for reaching out. We decided wife will tell sister I like to skinny dip and judge her response. If she is OK with that great. If she would like to join, even better. If she's not OK with me skinny dipping then we will have to work out a swim schedule.
stay tuned...

So your wife isn't willing to admit she skinnydips, too?

Hi Dave. Quite honestly,our family does not know we are nudists and we have not been comfortable telling them. So wife will discuss my skinny dipping with her sister and see how she reacts. At that time wife will determine how much more to tell

So, how did it go?

...and, even if she says "yes; no problem", keep in mind she might just be saying it to be cordial.

A good friend of mine, who was a home-nudist, once invited me hang out with her in her backyard/pool; "swimsuit-optional." When I got naked, I saw her demeanor instantly change. She kept looking away, clearly embarrassed. Luckily her son was there, and he loaned me his swimsuit. She wasn't mentally prepared to actually seem me naked, in spite of her best intentions.

So even if she says yes, I would recommend keeping a towel nearby and be prepared to cover up if she looks like her eyes are going to pop out of her head.

Well here's what happened. Sister in law arrived and wife still had not talked with her about nudism.

On her second day with us wife said she would take her sister out for the day so I could have some naked time. The plan was to call me while driving home and casually ask if I'm dressed. I would reply no and she would say better put your bathing suit on. We'll be back in 30 minutes. Then she was supposed to tell her sister I like to skinny dip and would that make her uncomfortable. Well, after they were home and we finished supper, I had a private moment with wife and asked how the skinny dipping conversation went. She never mentioned it!

So it was dark and I turned the pool lights off then announced to wife and sister in law I'm going skinny dipping. They can join if they like..
they did not. My sister in law just said, don't worry I won't look. I walked out the slider and jumped in the pool......wonderful.

The next morning I returned from my walk and sister in law heads to the bathroom and closes the door. I here water running and figure she's in the shower. So I walk out the slider, peel off my clothes and jump in the pool for a swim. A few minutes later, I get out of the pool dry off, pick up my clothes, wrap the towel around my waist and walk through the slider into the house. Sister in law is sipping a coffee and greets me with did you go for a swim? She obviously saw me drying off through the glass slider. And she wasn't in the shower. Nothing more was said.

Sounds like it came out satisfactorily, even though your wife bailed on talking to her sister. Did you have to swim in the dark for the rest of her stay, or were you able to skinnydip freely after that morning?

I swam nude in the morning before SIL was up and again at night when she went to bed. I didn't want to impose my nudity on her. I guess it worked out as well as possible.

Hi Computerstation! I agree that you accomplished what you set out to do.
Your sister-in-law knows:
1. that you skinny dip
2. that you are open to making it social
3. that she was invited.

She may or may not have seen you, but she has enough information to begin considering the concept of social nudity for herself.

In other cultures, this would not even be an issue, but in the UK, Australia, New Zealand the United States and maybe a few other places, she probably has a lot to process before she acts on it. That's okay; as you described it, things didn't get worse.

Realistically, it may take an act of God to get her to have those additional conversations and experiences before she reaches the point of being comfortable in her skin, where nudity is the norm and being clothed is what you do when weather or culture demand it.

But God delights in performing "Acts of God". And he hears us when we pray.
God doesn't violate free will, but he can make real change possible.
With hindsight it seems so obvious to us that we were designed to live our lives in our bare skin and that our bare bodies are good in his eyes. Of course in the eyes of the general public, we could very well be misunderstood, so we create places of refuge in our homes, back yards or even communities where the rules of Eden still apply!