I fist ran into sunnyday in the streaking .org days. I was newly married. I told my new wife that I was interested in nudism. She came un corked on me and told me I was welcome to do it myself and she never wanted to hear about it again. Big mistake. I took her worrd at face value. The problem was I had to keep it a secret from her so naturism in safe spaces was out so I leaned more towards streaking. Being your stupid and fed bad information. It cought up with me with a visit to a judge and all that brings. I had to have a honest discussion with my wife. She agreed that if I went back in the closet with strict boundaries she would be understanding of my naturism. It was so hard to go back in the dark. I became a keyboard home naturist.first it was Tumbler then Twitter. I frequented every nudist site I could find. The internet was my window. 17 years passed this way. October of 2020 I was at an event I went to every year in Lake Havasu City Arizona and it was a bust. I asked a friend I was with if he was interested in going to a nudist resort.he said yes. I didn't sleep that night. The next day we drove the 4 hours to Shangri-la Ranch. I came out of the closet in secret. It was amazing it was only a day but it was the best day. When I got home I told my wife what I had done I told her it was a bucket list thing a one time deal. Closing the door on my closet again with me back inside. This time the dark hurt worse. On Twitter I was reading more about AANR and it's mission of family friendly nude recreation resonated with me.in the summer of 2021 I sat my wife down and told her all I want for my birthday that year was for her to consider and look into going with me to a nude resort. After the initial atomic blast and me explaining that I just want her to look into it that she can say no . She calmed down and said ok. She did it! She came back a few weeks later and said I looked at those web sites.i do not want to go! But when you go to Arizona you can go to a resort with my blessing. I did some research and we went to Glen Eden that time for 3 days 2 nights. It was fantastic but a huge piece was missing my best friend. She went to The races with me the next year 2022 I rented us a house with a private pool. In the hopes we would skinny dip.the weather was horrible and I lost my brother to covid the next week. That winter in a Sam's club parking lot i informed her i want to join AANR. Later I asked her again to go with me giving her lot of resort options. She informed me she would only try a beach. I begged her to reconsider . She said beach or nothing . So I planned us a cruise that left out of Miami. Haulover here we come. I was so excited. Some how we found the three crazy guys on the beach.before we went I found a nice little resort in Boise Idaho that was 4.5 hours away and went to check it out. I asked her to go she said no if haulover is OK I'll go back when you go again. Needless to say she did not go back with me.December of 22 we were working out in the basement out of the blue she announced " I will go to Idaho with you this summer"! My heart stopped mind was blown. This is it it happened and it was the best. We weren't there an hour and she let me know that we can go back next summer. She has yet to try nude but having my best friend with me makes it the best.

My wife went with me to resorts, but stayed dressed for the first few times, but eventually, she decided to try it herself and now she's full-time naturist with me at home and at resorts. Sounds like your wife may be on a similar path, just give her time.

Thank you. That's what I'm hoping for.

There was a lot of back-and-forth, "one step up and two steps back" with my wife as well. I don't think it's uncommon.

For my wife it turned out that "location" was the key. It was nature that won her over. We live in the heart of the city surrounded by buildings; and when we came across a heavily wooded resort with a lake, she was instantly taken by the setting. Whereas she "questioned" nudity at other locations, at our current resort she found it more meaningful to just leave her clothes behind and immerse herself in the natural surroundings. So much so that she didn't even mind that the resort was "nudity-expected"; which was not her initial preference.

It's different for everyone; but the takeaway is the same. If a "reluctant" spouse digs the nudist venue he/she is at, there is a much stronger possibility he/she will want to go back and fully participate.

Good luck on your journey!

That's a good point I never thought of it like that.

It Is difficult to out of the blue to suddenly spring the concepts of nudism upon a textile world/partner. It often depends upon their own life experiences. Were they raised in a closed, conforming, environment and naturally hard for them to look at things differently than the 'norm' - whatever that is? Or, have they been raised in a more free thinking environment/family where at least the ability to discuss/consider new ideas? The level of difficulty kinda centers around these backgrounds in life.

Some come from an open-awareness/ideas family (I'M not one of Those who were lucky). Some come from a more restrictive, narrow background which makes it hard to be open to New ideas/ways of living life. And some of us rebel from past experiences in the search 'of our real selves'. Searching for the needle in the haystack which sews the open spaces together, that which makes our life whole, that which we can share with friends and loved ones. That which helps make sense - for us, of this crazy world.

The task of helping our loved ones to understand what to them at first is a Very strange idea is not an easy one - usually. Many, probably most will never understand, or accept. But with care and lots of slow patience's, love - it can be done. It's a 'process'. But - Never force your lifestyle upon others - encourage, educate, help - yes, but one will never succeed in achieving their hopes and goal of bringing others/loved ones into the fold by forcing the issue upon them.

I'm so glad with your help and patience she began to come around, to investigate, and slowly finally accept your invitations to join - then surprisingly, suddenly doing so. And enjoying her first true visit and Wanting to return next year! Success! Congratulations!

One thing that helped me in succeeding in sharing nudism with my two marriages, and children - second marriage, was that I 'tried' to choose dating partners who were at least a little open-minded in general about life.

Neither had a background with nudism, or Ever considered it - it was a education/learning process each time. But, they were at least willing to discuss the 'possibility'.

Between marriages, during college, I dated quite a lot with different ladies. Throughout life I had 3 serious relationships, two of which I married. The third one also possibly would have accepted if it had progressed that far, which of course it did not.

Since age 12, nudism had 'become' important to me and I wanted it in my life in the future.

I guess I make this comment, food for thought, for those who are single and are in the dating world. It definitely helps to discuss your life choices prior to making the commitment of either marriage or serious long-term relationships.