Hi all, Nashoba here. I am having trouble finding trustworthy nudist sites other than this one. Does anyone have any recommendations?

Christian and biblical sites

figleafforum.com

nakedandunashamed.org

achingforeden.wordpress.com

No designation but good

naturistplace.com

im-ok-naked.com

Thank you

When I first came into nudism I started reading
Fig leaf forum.. I read all the old post and couldn’t wait for the new addition.. I’d say it was foundational.

Got into cnvillage.org. But presently I’m not able to get into it.

I also discovered mychainsaregone.org
It teaches the Biblical truths to be set free from porn addiction.

Good folks teaching Biblical truths. I’d say even if a group or individual doesn’t want to get naked, you can learn so much. Good sound biblical teaching, teaching what lust is or isn’t. What a great help.

I also enjoy nude photographs, however they have become so problematic because of porn influence that there are none to few sites to see them.

I hope readers will find these helpful

John

https://christiannaturistsofamerica.wordpress.com/tag/christian/

https://thebiblicalnaturist.blogspot.com/

Thank you. I’m not opposed to the idea seeing photographs of good people enjoying the nude lifestyle, but as a whole, it scares me. I don’t want to see porn and certainly nothing that could remotely be considered as questionable.

Nashoba,

I get inspiration from photos of people out taking a walk, swimming or participating in sports in a nudist setting, but it's best not to linger too long in galleries. Not because domestic or recreational nudity is wrong, but because it creates a situation where we are passively sitting in a dark room watching photos or movies of other people living a happy life in a sun-kissed world. We need to become a part of the naturist community, make friends with others.
Of course you can enjoy a picture or two when it comes your way, but its not a place to linger. I hope you see where I am coming from.

I do enjoy reading stories such as the ones Sunny wrote as well as many of her friends here.

Porn is an odd thing. I have seen photos of nudists doing nothing more than standing or walking, yet it is sometimes called "porn" simply because they were not wearing clothes. And I have seen photos of improper behavior called nudism. But for people like you and me, it's not confusing at all.
The Internet is full of lies and half truths and someone's always trying to sell something that they don't want but are trying to convince you that you should want it.

Step outside and take a breath of fresh air. Make friends, live, learn and celebrate God's creation.

Ramblinman,

I second everything you said, it's very good sound advice. Real life is better than computers.

Natural Guy

I would also recommend NaturistChristians.org. There is always a lot going on there and you can converse with many good Christian people of all denominational stripes. Things there a few years back were somewhat contentious, however their current administrator has succeeded in nurturing a much more peaceful environment. They have a gallery which you don’t have to worry about finding porn in, however because of a recent upgrade it is temporarily unavailable. They also have a Facebook group if you choose to join

Nashoba, you're right about photos being risky. Me and my husband like this site because people hunting for photos won't be interested. Many nudist sites, even the good ones, attract people I wouldn't want to talk with in real life.

I like this comment by Ramblinman:

Years ago when SunnyDay's boyfriend Brian was first learning about nudism from her, Sunny wrote good things — and I mean good as in really, really, really good — about how she told her boyfriend about social nudity. Her four-part story, with Brian writing some of it, is here:
http://sunnydaynew.atwebpages.com/story018a.html

I agree with what Sunny wrote about Brian here: "he asked, 'Does it bother you at all knowing that I’ve looked at girls on nudist web sites?'"

Sunny's answer was that it was okay and expected, and I understand her answer, but this comment from Brian on his first time nude with her is much better: "Another thing I noticed was that I didn’t feel bad or awkward about looking at her. I guess I felt that because we were both nude that we were now more like equal or sort of on the same level. We simply looked at each other as we talked and interacted just like we do any other time. I still wasn’t used to seeing her like this, but at least now it didn’t seem so awkward."

What's the difference between seeing nude photos and being nude with someone?

It's the difference between night and day.

I tell men considering social nudity that no matter how many times they look at nudist pictures to visualize being there, it won't be the same. Oh, not saying it isn't valuable -- if you're going to a textile beach you want to see pictures of what it looks like first -- but seeing other people nude is nothing like BEING nude with other people.

Visualizing has a place, though. It's important for people considering going to a nudist place for the first time to "psych themselves up." Longtime nudists sometimes forget just how big a deal it is to go nude for the first time.

I know nudists who say, "Just go to the beach and drop your shorts. It's easy. Nobody will notice, nobody will care, the world won't end, and it's fun!"

That may be true for single men going to a beach alone. It's not true for most women, and it's not true for most men going with a wife or girlfriend, and it's DEFINITELY not true for a dating couple who have little or no prior experience with physical intimacy.

Going nude with a friend of the opposite sex will change their relationship. Mentally preparing for that is important.

BeachBunny, your experiences contribute some important insight.

I will only add that I see value in talking about social nudity with a friend of the opposite sex prior to the event or potential event. While not as transformative as participation, thinking instead of reacting is valuable, particular if it involves gathering facts and talking to people who have actually done it. Learning over time is great!
I strongly belief in learning by doing and social nudity is a participatory event. It requires being there, but once a concept becomes a reality in your life, it also changes the way you think about him or her and about life in general!

In my case:

I went skinny dipping after dark with a female friend from college. It was one of the most innocent and beautiful moments in my life and she and I are forever linked in friendship and I wouldn't rule out matrimony if the good Lord can help with a few details.

A coworker gave me a lot to think about as I considered a home movie date with her that would have potentially included being nude with her. My romantic feelings for her got all tangled up with the awkwardness of being alone with her for the first time and my lack of experience (at the time) with social nudity. But her invitation certainly introduced the concept.

A girl I had been casually dating (in a relationship that hovered on the edge of romance) suggested that we go to a nude beach. Again I was not ready, because of unresolved issues with our relationship and my realization that I would not simply see her as another woman on the beach. It definitely would have heated things up in a way that I didn't want. Taking the long view, her frank discussion contributed enormously to my interest in social nudity in general as a positive force in a Christian's life.

A female nurse I had been casually dating (only a bit of kissing and hugging) suggested that I take a quick skinny dip to cool off when she and I were hiking by a river on an incredibly hot day. She couldn't participate that day, but her nursing career helped her have a very relaxed attitude about practical nudity that it greatly helped my comfort level with the situation.

A young woman who shared a very, very serious relationship with me (we had begun discussing marriage) went skinny dipping with me in a discrete sort of way. It was brief, carefree and yet it did increase the bond between us. Nothing we couldn't handle, it was a good thing.

I know some men and women who have a deep antipathy toward social nudity and I don't press the issue with these people. If they bring it up again on a later date, fine. If not, I let it go.

Maybe BeachBunny will have fun sorting through the various situations.
Each relationship is different, each woman different and I was transformed as I learned and grew through life experiences.
Who wants to be someone who doesn't learn and grow?

We agree, Ramblinman, about the "value in talking about social nudity with a friend of the opposite sex prior to the event or potential event."

Openly discussing feelings, worries, and desires — and yes, the role of physical attraction — is an important part of mentally preparing to be socially nude, whether at a nude beach, a nude or clothing optional resort, a pool party in a private home or rented public pool, group nude sunbathing, walking nude in nature, or something else. For us, often "the talk" was in a coffee shop near campus where we could speak freely with friends considering our local nude beach, asking them to visualize what it would be like to see each other nude.

Many experienced nudists forget how social nudity is completely out of most people's experience. Pictures help "newbies" understand a nudist campground, nude beach, or nude swim isn't a wild orgy. People do the same things they do at a textile camp or beach, they just do it without clothes.

Wanting to see pictures of the place we'll visit is normal. We do that when preparing to go to a textile beach or a regular public swimming pool or a vacation spot. Why wouldn't we do that when preparing to go someplace we'll be nude? Seeing pictures answers questions, and that's part of a bigger issue of asking and answering questions. Lots of them.

Having lots of questions is normal. As Sunny wrote about Brian:

Those are great questions! It's good to ask the questions and then visualize being there.

What Sunny and Brian wrote speaks to me.

Why? So much of what's out there is written by men about their first experiences with nudity, or by couples, whether married or living together, who are very used to being nude together at home but experiencing social nudity in a group of people for the first time, or by nudist men talking their reluctant wives or girlfriends into social nudity. That's all good in its place, but doesn't address how a young couple who are committed to "save it for later" deal with being deeply in love, experiencing the physical attraction a dating couple not only will but SHOULD have for each other, and trying to decide whether to take the step of making social nudity part of their relationship.

Isn't it true that all dating couples considering going to a nude beach together know they can't unsee what they've seen? That's doubly true for people raised with ideas about modesty and saving themselves for their future spouse.

Physical attraction is good, not just for married couples but also for dating couples and even for men and women who notice each other and consider dating. In Sunny's words about when she first met the man who would become her husband, "I noticed him when they came in, noticed that he was a good-looking guy (hey, that’s healthy)." Sunny reminded Brian that as a dating couple, they both experienced physical arousal while wearing clothes. It's fine to enjoy seeing each other nude: "So if and when it happens, and I’m sure it will, maybe not the first time, I don’t know, but eventually we’ll be comfortable enough together and it’ll happen. It won’t be on purpose. It’ll just happen as a result of the love and attraction I feel for you. And I don’t know how I’ll feel, but I know I can’t hide it – I won’t even try. It’s natural. It’s healthy." As Sunny puts it even better, "We’re a couple, we’re very much in love, and we’ve got a serious case of the hots for each other. (We both laughed.) That’s normal and healthy, but we’ve put limits on ourselves rather than go all the way with it."

I feel Sunny hit the key right there.

For many people raised with traditional values, those limits include lots of man-made rules about clothing. How long is the skirt? How low can a V-neck go? The problem is those man-made rules can backfire by increasing curiosity about what's underneath. A skirt going down to the ankles paired with a blouse buttoned to the top may follow the rules of modesty but be very alluring if form-fitting styles accentuate the woman's figure.

As Brian and Sunny said in a different part of their story, if the limits are based on what we wear, they're weak limits and will fail. A dating couple can move from "making out" to much more in just a few minutes by undoing buttons or unlatching hooks or unzipping zippers.

The limits need to be based on personal values, not so much on what clothes we wear.