I'm not sure why you feel that way. Cause.. Yes you had sexual play with your sister. But no, you did not take it overboard. You don't have a large age gap between you like me and my brother do. And you both participated in the action. I know everybody feel their pain is the strongest and biggest but if you feel bad, how am I suppose to feel?

I will now write to you what a woman wrote to me on a psychology forum page from my own country.

"For God sakes. A child is giving herself pleasure like a dog who rubes on a visitor's leg. There is nothing wrong about it, especially if the object is saying so. If you had each your own room, individual babysitters, studied latin in free time, you wouldn't have had the chance to explore in such ways and would both probably be into heavy S&M nowdays. lol.. This way, you are children of the 21.st. Finish school, find a job, get married. STOP FINDING ALIBIS WHERE THERE ARE NONE."

And Izzy.. read this book, if you get a chance..

"Simona Vinci - What we don't know about children"

Well I understan everything that you are saying to me and I apreciate so much for you to reply me and help me. You are the only person that I can talk to about it. I couldn't talk to my mom, because I don't want her to feel ashamed or scared. I know that if she react like that, she wouldn't have the right to be my mom because what I did was nothing wrong, but I read somewher when I was searching about that book you told me "what we don't know about children" and I saw like a comment on the page and it said something like "this is all parents nightmare..." and I didn't read more, but...
Also I couldn't tell my friends of course. I know that they wouldn't understand and they would probably think I am an abuser or whatever, and I think that's is enough what I have to go trough school, because I have a really low self-estime and other things going on. But when I get older? Should I tell my friends and boyfriend? I mean I hope, I sinceraly hope, that when I am older or in a few months I can be ok with all this and not be worried about this sort of things and just live my life. But should I tell them? Or is no need to do that, because it was just a phase that I went trough? I don't really know, I never had a boyfriend so I don't know how people get to know each other. I mean I know but this is a part of who I am? Or is just a thing that children go through to descover more about sexuality? I don't know and I think you could really help me.

Also I saw your post in that guy, that has also been trough sexual play with other children, and I wonder about what you said, that you start masturbation late, and what is the age that girls normaly start to masturbate? Because I just start masturbation last year and I guess if I had start earlier my sister and I woudn't be involved in a sexual play. I don't know.

Alsoabout that book? I can't really buy it, but have you read it? Because if you did I would like for you to tell me what's the storie and what should I get from the book.

Thank you, I am so sorry if by reading my posts tI make you feel worse, or anything, is just that you are like the only one I can talk to.

Living in the past... When will any of you ever learn to live in the now? I guess you can't. Your brains lack the capacity to comprehend the shifting of time.

So you loop problems in your head until final meltdown. How.. pathetic.

Sometimes we wish to shift back in time and correct the errors of our past. It is sad that none of you take into account that who you are is not who you were.

Surely you no longer exhibit such behaviors.. as you have grown. So why would you ever look back at a lesser version of who you once were and punish yourself... now.. for something you didn't do. Who you are wouldn't commit such acts so why look back on a lesser version of yourself and feel such guilt?

I do not blame myself for my past mistakes. I only seek to grow from them and make weakness into strength.

When will you learn that who you were is not who you are and yet who you were.. shapes who you are. Everything you do is to auto correct behaviors of your childhood. To.. complete you as a person that lives in the now.

The inner child is still part of you and yet you seek to destroy your own selves in such a manner... to die inside. You are sad creatures who don't even understand their own design. Is this what Jesus would do? I think not.

True. Every word. But you know why? Cause nobody wants to accept that they were (not are) an abuser. Like you said, the ego feels ashamed. And you dread at the thought that the person you feel you abused is gonna confirm their feelings of the abuse one day. You feel responsible. Although it's not you. And it can not possibly be you. Because like you said. That person is not here anymore. Just the consequences of their actions are. But you bear the burden of them.

What wolfie is on about is actually something that really, really annoys me about people in general.

Almost everyone is living either in the past or in a distant future, preparing for something, an idle fantasy. What the hell is so wrong with the present? How can you ever get where you want to go if you don't live in the present? I find such a life sad and pathetic, to always look forward to something by being miserable in the present or beating yourself up over something that happened instead of learning from the experience. You live it again and again and again. It's fine to analyze an experience, to figure out what went wrong, where and why as to not make the same mistakes but to regret it? Should have, could have and would have is meaningless past understanding.

Every experience, positive or negative, makes you a stronger person IF you understand the implications of the experience. This childhood sexual play thing seems popular these days and it seems silly to me. How else WOULD you get to know yourself and your sexuality if you don't experiment? Do some think that we are somehow born with the knowledge to have sex? I mean, yes, pretty much everyone has the sexual drive but the releasing part is what seems to be a taboo, especially in the US, for some odd reason. Here is a shocking revelation; people fuck. Not only themselves but eachother too! Sticking your dick into a hole repeatedly is the basic idea, sure but the only way we learn what gets us off the best is by trying out! You are not ashamed about trying different foods are you? So what if it was your sibling, i bet you anything that unless he/she was forced and screaming for mommy, they enjoyd the experience aswell.

Hi Hexi. Ive never posted on her before but have spent a great deal of time browsing through the forums and archives. Fuk i wish more people were like you. What you have said is how i feel. People seem to think (even i did admitedly) that anything sexual is bad. is evil. ...... i meen what a load of complete bull shit that is. the world and the people in it are fukd and i think lets just leave it at that.

Sorry for late responding Izzy, but I'm trying to keep myself of the forum as much as I can and didn't want to write even this I am writing now, but I felt bad for you and I see you got really connected on me through this matter. I would never ever usually do this but I think I can trust you so if you want to take our writings somewhere else. I've opened up an email adress that you can send me your email or even link to your facebook account if you have one, and I will add you. And we can chat there. And of course you can trust me on the privacy matter. I plead on any other person reading this not to take advantage of this e-mail and send me stupidities. You can't get any personal data on me through it anyways.

painnn66@gmail.com

P.S.

Read into the words of Wolf and Hexi, cause what they are saying COULDN'T BE MORE TRUE. But we are to sick in a way to comprehend this, and they are objective and realistic, older, wiser and pretty much everything. Btw I didn't give you the email adress so we fell sorry for each other and pull ourselves back into the pathetic state. I want to pull us through. It's enough with the pathetic. I say enough.