Before you leave, how about the apology you promised if the doctor was right and you were mistaken? Somehow you seem to have forgotten that. If you are any kind of man at all, that would be the very least you could do. I mean a real apology:
I am sorry that I came to your forum and criticized your work the way I did. I was totally mistaken. I hope that you will be able to forgive my foolishness in imagining that I know more than you about how to reply to questions about psychology and human suffering. Clearly, I do not. This will not happen again."
OK, OK, I give up. I am sorry I offended you, Dr. Robert. I had no right to come on your forum acting like an expert when obviously I know far less about these matters than you do. You were completely correct in your advice to the boy, and I was foolish to question it. You are a train professional, and I am not.
I have learned a lesson here, and I will do better in the future. Please accept my apology and allow me to keep participating on your forum.
No. You jump through a hoop.
Thanks for your gracious apology. I accept it completely.
By the way, it never was my intention to ban you from the forum. All voices are permitted here.
why does this still happen?
because 'we' deem culture as sacrasant over the rights of the individual. the total seems more crucial than the sum of its parts, which i believe is a survival of the species mentality. because people are so doggedly intent on survival that they'd rather join the 'protection' of the herd than form an identity based on the natural inclinations of their real natures.
when we challenge their insane ways we are seen as challenging the survival of another race, thus inviting potential attack on our own survival.
this policing (often extreme and absurd like your example) of human nature will always exist in its various forms.
it is a tragedy that individuals suffer for the apparent survival of the race. But who said life is fair?
some people do indeed speak out, and in this way change is incremental. But put simply, only a few people in this world are willing to put themselves on the line.
I have a close relationship to this culture cos my parents are from that part of the world. I know first-hand about the tragedy of the sacrificed, wasted individual mind, at the hands of when culture goes from being a protector to a saboteur. (inbreeding is a perfect example).
and those women who claim they like living inside a tent who say, 'it brings me close to god and it's my choice,' - stockholm syndrome anyone?