Tonite I would like to ask how the members of this forum identify and maintain friendships with the people in their lives.
One of many definitions of friendship includes:
"The state of being friends; friendly relation, or attachment, to a person, or between persons; affection arising from mutual esteem and good will; friendliness; amity; good will." But it is obvious to me that with the good parts of friendship come the low points. And with the low points, sometimes moments when you have to decide whether the friendship can be maintained.
Often times on this forum we have dealt with the concept of love...whether individuals can feel it or not, if it is concrete or an idealistic vision of something to strive for. I have referred back to a couple of conversations, and have seen that there are broad opinions either way.
Now I would like to explore what makes friendship for all personalities and types that are visiting. Is it just a sense of similiarity, or is it a form of love? Is it just an agreement between two people that can be broken at any time?
I am currently in a situation that is uncomfortable and taxing. It is a friendship that is often one way, but obviously meeting unspoken needs or it would not exist at all.
It leads me to ask...who is your best friend, or do you have one or need one? What is it that a friend brings to your life?
What do you do to minimize risk in friendship? And what are the rewards?
(sorry I don't have a horrific story to post at the moment, but I thought that I would start on this simple point and maybe the group would go from there).
OK...I don't seem to be getting any bites here... no one has any friends right?
Or is it no one needs any friends? Does everyone here just get complete satisfaction just living virtually?
Is everyone just an acquaintance?
Any of you go to a Starbucks and stalk strangers?
Goodness me. No bites. And it's such an interesting topic, too.
How would you define a relationship where one person has "friendly relation, or attachment" to the other and that other only pretends to reciprocate? My acquaintances would call me a friend. In public, I would call them friends, but if I were being honest....
I don't really feel the need for friends. I just hang out with people so my parents don't spend all their time worrying that I am (and I quote) 'an antisocial loner'.
Stalking strangers might be fun... if I was really bored....