There is such a thing in medicine as atypical cases and complex diagnosis with multiple disorders.
If you have such a complex inner life, perhaps your problem is not that simple to understand. There are very fine borders between some mental disorders, just like there is a very thin line separating sanity from insanity.
You are satisfied with your behaviour: that is a two way road into and out of a balanced life. You may feel ok with it, but you clearly show you do not like the consequences your behaviour has. How will that equate into your life now?
What most therapists try to do is to help their patients learn how to live with themselves: how can you live a happy and productive life when you are satisfied with your actions but not their consequences?
For example, you just said you tried to impress the psychologist that is the object of your obssession: why would a psycopath or a sociopath need to impress anyone to see his feelings returned? Would such a person care whether or not he is loved or refrain from causing misery to others? Did you have any desire to physically or psychologically attack that woman before she turned against you?
Let's see it another way. If you have no problem with what your are doing, why ask these questions? Is it purely out of curiosity? Are you so completely detached from your own emotional life that the reasons behind your behaviour are just an interesting challenge that you are desperately trying to solve? Do you truly feel pleasure out of other people's pain or do you react purely instinctively with anger when people approach you? Do you even bother to persecute someone that as not provoked you in any way just to cause them suffering? Why do you bother thanking someone for their help or being polite on the internet? Is it just because you want to keep people focused on your problem? If it is so, and you are willing to play a positive role in a discussion to get the attention you crave, why won't you do it in the physical world and pretend to be nice just so people will get closer to you?
Did you have any wish to hurt me just by knowing I exist, after my first post? Do you want to hurt me now that I have defended a position that may contradict your desires?
There is no such thing as a good self-diagnose of mental disorders...
I have tried to ponder what you should do to find some peace and, at the same time, I avidly searched for a way to convince you to try to change your way of life. The first is meant to make you feel better, the second is meant to make those around you less miserable than you make them now. I believe the two of them are related.
There are some answers to some of the previous questions that would make my reasoning void. Some of them would imply that your are completely disassociated from your own emotions, others would show that you truly take pleasure in causing misery around you. Some choices you make now and the way you will answer this post may reflect your inner feelings. Who knows?
Just remember that you have four windows into your own mind, each showing a different image of it: one through which both you and others can see, one that only you can see through, one that only allows others to know what lies behind it and one that cannot be pierced by the sight of anyone at all...
I am too tired to find an appropriate aphorism to end this post: keep searching, talk to others and meditate by yourself about this and you will eventually find what you seek...
I thanked you for taking the time to respond to my posts in an attempt to get you to give me feedback and answers, so thanks again.
To answers some of your questions after giving them some thought, I do find it difficult coming up with concrete answers - being a double gemini doesn't help. I can be very charming and use humor to get people to like me because it boosts my self-esteem momentarily and that makes me feel good - I like the positive feedback from others and bask in their compliments. I try to get people closer to me by being nice, but if they don't give me compliments and positive feedback, then I cut them loose. I like to talk about myself most of the time and when others share things about themselves, I'm mostly bored and detached. I usually only like to observe the unspoken language in others and draw my own conclusions because I think what most people say is bullshit anyway. i believe they think like I do and are either telling lies or are unaware of their true motives.
You're right, I am not happy with the consequences of my behavior - I want to continue to stalk this person, but do not want to go to prison for five years this time. I do try to change my behaviors and abide by the rules, but become bored with the monotony of it all. I do sometimes feel better when I help someone else - that is what AA teaches and have been there too. There is a part of me who wants to be a better person, but the deceitful side usually wins out. I become weary of trying to suppress it.
I didn't want to hurt the psychologist before she ended the relationship, but I was growing angrier with her because she was not giving me what I wanted and I would double my attempts to get her to love me and get my way with her. I didn't want her to have anybody in her life but me and was jealous most of the time. If anything positive was happening in her life, I'd tell her I was happy for her, but I secretly wanted her to fail. I did want feelings of love and approval from her and her opinion of me mattered more than most - if that means I couldn't be a socio/psycopath, then here is my answer. i am very curious about my diagnoses and they have been quite a challenge for me to try to figure out. I think I am very detached emotionally and maybe I continue to seek answers in order to remain detached. Most people say I have a look of emotional detachment.
Who knows... maybe I just have really low self-esteem (but hide it well in front of others) and if I am able to improve that by doing the "right" thing, I will be a happier person and treat others accordingly.