My boyfriend of one year admitted to me earlier this week that he's a sociopath. I wasn’t sure whether or not to believe him at first, but he told me he saw a doctor at an early age who said it was likely (he hasn’t been to a doctor since he was 7, now 20), and from what I’ve read so far he definitely fits the description of a presumably mild sociopath. I say mild, because although he admittedly revels in being unfeeling, callous, and selfish, he’s not incapable of forming attachments. He told me that he doesn’t really understand love and has only been emulating what I do, but that he does care about me and a few other people. In the end, I guess I’m not entirely sure that he’s a sociopath, even if it’s only because he’s not 100% incapable of caring.
I’ve been searching for answers and help, but so far the only answers given to me have been to leave him, which I’m not willing to do unless I’m absolutely sure that he’s downright bad for me and there’s no other way. He’s not just some guy I’m seeing, he’s also my dear friend and he has a disorder he never asked for and can manage. He cares as much about me as he’s capable of and has gone out of his way for me, which is all I could ever really ask of anyone, sociopath or not. Besides a few problems, we’ve been very happy together all this time. He's never tried to harm me and I feel secure that he never will.
I want to know if there are any resources out there that discuss living with a sociopath, not getting rid of them, or any good advice. I really can't talk to anyone I know about this. He may not experience love or empathy as I know it, but I feel like he's capable of forming his own brand of bond with people. If that's all he can give, then I want to accept him as is and find a way to make things work.
A mild sociopath? give me a break, and stop watching movies for ****s sake. He lied about anyone saying anything to him about it when he was 7. He's just a regural ******* who was surfing the net and stumbled upon something to lie to you about as an excuse for his behaviour. Males are VERY different to women in regards to emotions to begin with. Just because he doesn't match up to your imagination cooked up by movies does not mean he's a sociopath. A sociopath would NEVER admit to being one to a spouse and make up stuff like that, there is 0 reason to unless confronted and under pressure and even then it would be easier for him to just move on and leave you pondering what just happened. I swear, every male is a sociopath these days, specially ex-boyfriends. UGH! UGH I SAY!
I dissagree. If you read my current thread "im a sociopath but i don't want to be one" or something like that and you read my last post which is a very indepth analysis of me as a person you can see quite clearly I am one but I too like him would try for a relationship and not be trying to harm my partner.
Not all sociopaths are evil masterminds.
The idea of being a psychopath may be appealing but how much reality is there to this? Do psychopaths hcare what others think?
Hexi, do you care what I think in terms of feelings or rather do you view the information I have displayed and without consideration for my feelings approach me from a more logical aspect? Or what do you do, Hexi? Explain how you process thoughts.
Well as the poster above has pointed out in my thread I may indeed likely not be a sociopath after all and something else. I'm still confused as to what I am now, so maybe what I said isn't so helpful. haha.
It is unclear to me if you are really seeing a sociopath. And if he hasn't hurt you yet, and yet you believe that he still is one, then believe that pain is inevitable.
I am trying to raise one. He asked me two years ago to be there for him. He stated that he knew that he was a sociopath but that he didn't want to go that direction. At the time, he had just been convicted of 6 felonies, and leading 4 other teenagers to a criminal background. In those two years, this young man has promised he wouldn't lie to me, and that he cared for me. In these two years I have seen him carelessly take small amounts of money, wreck my house, quit working intermittently, blame everyone for everything he does wrong, abuse and use his girlfriend, start using certain drugs, threaten suicide, misrepresent himself to others and humiliate or put me down to others, as well as endless other things.
I am one of those people who still believes that maybe a sociopath can change. And honestly, it has cost me over 10 thousand dollars already.
Do they change? No, I think that we just learn to deal with them in a controlled fashion every day and then protect ourselves with ammunition for when they turn on us.
I love my sociopathic adopted son, but he is bad news. Rather than try to justify the relationship, why not seek to understand WHY you want to be hurt. Because that is what it is. I know, I live it daily.
And I know how good that can be to spend time with.I have made him a best friend. He is charming, charismatic, fun, snd tender but only on his terms, which isn't often.