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EditressBec
 Mar 16, 06 - 4:55 AM |
Fathers and Daughters
These days the importance of father/daughter relationships is often ignored. It is as if people have dismissed the impact a father can have on his daughter's life. Daughters can be "arrows in the hands of a mighty warrior", if they turn their hearts toward home and their fathers. What is your opinion of what a fahter's role should be in the life of a daughter? How should daughters treat their father? How can daughters bless their father? |
Ashley M.
Jun 5th, 2006 - 1:45 PM |
Re: Fathers and Daughters
I wish my relationship with my dad was stronger! I really love him but we just don't see ee to eye! Do you have any advice? 
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EditressBec
Jun 15th, 2006 - 5:44 PM |
Re: Fathers and Daughters
Hi Ashley, I'm sorry that it has taken me so long to reply to your comment. I hope that some other girls will post some opinions here as well:). "I wish my relationship with my dad was stronger! I really love him but we just don't see eye to eye." First, before I go any further, let me tell you what assumptions that I am going on, so that you can see why I word my answers the way that I do. I am assuming that your father is a Christian, and that you are willing to make what ever changes necessary to get your relationship with your father where God wants it to be. A lot is made about fathers and sons, and while this is very important (it is shaping the next generation of Christian men and leaders), the relationship between a father and a daughter is just as vital and important. Daughters were given to fathers to be nutured, protected, and shaped into Godly women. We have such a wonderful opportunity to be great blessings to our fathers. We as women are called to be in submission to the authority that God has placed over us--until we are married, that's our dads. Submission is not a popular term these days. Especially with women! Feminists have somehow conveinced women that if they submit to men that it makes them half-persons. You said that you and your father don't see eye to eye. Why is this? (Remember, I am only assuming things--every father/daughter situation is different and I really don't know much about yours) What are the things that you don't see eye to eye on? Is it issues of clothing, music, attitude…? There are great blessings that come from pleaseing your father. You can win your father's heart very easily (and that makes your relationship very strong) by doing things just because he would like you to--basically putting your father's wishes first and making them priority. Not having an alterior motive--just doing it because you love your dad and want t be blessing to him. When it comes down to it, whose will is more important--yours or your dads? What would God have you to do? Pray and ask God what to do, and how He would have be towards your father. Ask Him for help to see eye to eye with your dad. He will, He always does. I would recommend the book So Much More by Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin from visionarydaughters.com. It has greatly helped me in my relationship with my dad, and it really helps put things in perspective. Hope this helps:) ~EditressBec |
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Brianna
Jun 19th, 2006 - 6:12 PM |
Re: Fathers and Daughters
Ashley, As I’ve been discovering more and more over the past several years, our relationships with our dads are so important! Becca has also talked with me a lot about this. I, too, would be interested in knowing what all you and your Dad don’t see “eye-to-eye” on. My Dad and I don’t see eye-to-eye on everything either, but let me illustrate these areas and what submitting in these areas has done. First, modesty. I feel convicted that I am not to wear pants. I feel very “uncovered” in them, and hence wear all skirts (and sometimes skorts in the summer). Dad’s fine with this, however, I think he’d also be fine if I wore pants horse back riding, sledding, etc. But areas in which I have submitted to him with this: (and am very grateful- both for the relationship sake and because he knew best!) he hates (nothing against anyone if this is how you dress) the dress and tennis shoe look. (he’s totally fine with it for volleyball, Ultimate Frisbee, and other games we play with familes) He doesn’t like “frumpiness”. So, I’m wearing sandals (various other brown shoes in winter) for the day-to-day, and trying to find/make clothing/patterns which are entirely modest, yet have a nice “cut”- not at all in an immodest way, or to draw attention. Hopefully some of that makes sense. One of my favorite testimonies: A few years ago our family moved to Ohio from Florida. Once here, we began the extremely discouraging “church hunt”. At some point, through someone Dad met, we heard of a house-church, with, give or take, 10 families, all homeschoolers. (maybe less at the time) We ended up being able to meet the family that started it, and were invited to their house for dinner. After the initial quietness and embarrassment, the evening went great, and I knew that I had found some like-minded sisters! About a month later, we attended the “church”. I loved it from the beginning. It was so real; really home, to me. During the worship, it felt like God was really there. It was all very relaxed; whoever wanted to played various instruments, and though no one had great voices, everyone sang loudly! There was also a time of prayer, and then reading through a chapter and discussing. Afterward a potluck, and for the rest of the afternoon, people did various things. (this is how it is, more or less, every week. During the afternoon, sometimes people play indoor or outdoor games, talk, have small group Bible studies, etc.) Everyone loved it, but Dad was uncertain. He still wanted a pastor; a place where he could go and hear a sermon. After months of begging on our part to go back (and lots of fruitless church-hunting!) we went back in February, 2004. (we’d gone in May, before.) Again, I felt so at home, I “knew” this was the place. (I’d also met and stayed in touch with the wonderful, like-minded girls) Dad was still uncertain. A while after this, I realized that I needed to give up my fantasies, regardless of what God’s will was. God convicted me that I needed to “let go” so I did. I realized that God couldn’t do much with my negative attitude towards other churches, and that if the home-church was the place, God could lead without my help. (grand revelation, huh?) With this whole attitude change, I became cheerful about finding a church, I was able to get excited about the hunting with my will pushed aside. A few weeks later, one Sunday morning, I got out the phone book, to find what ones we hadn’t tried. I asked Dad about his ideas, and suddenly he said, “Do you guys want to go to the homechurch today?” I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry. The really amazing thing was that all of this happened after I set aside my will- after I became willing to follow Dad, and help him find a church. Dad suddenly felt that this was indeed the church for us. I just love this testimony of God’s faithfulness! One other area- sports. My brothers play soccer, which Dad thinks is good for them and necessary for boys to not be whimps. Frankly, I don’t like it, as it takes away from our already-limited family time. When I marry, I hope that my husband will have different views. BUT, this is how Dad feels right now, so again, I’ve learned to totally submit. It’s all the little things- trying to arrange dinner hours around them, being interested in how the team is doing (Dad coaches both teams), asking about game scores, how people played, etc., when I don’t go (which is frequently, with little guys and all). Grumbling and griping doesn’t do anything except make Dad hate being home. I may not agree with him that sports are necessary- but so long as that’s the way he feels, it’s my “job” to support him, and I’m enjoying doing it. Being able to “bear” it all cheerfully makes it much easier to have a good relationship. Enough for now, hope this may help. |
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Ashley M.
Jun 20th, 2006 - 3:33 PM |
Re: Fathers and Daughters
That helps alot! Thank you! So whta did you like to do? |
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