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Agnes O'Hara
 Jul 30, 08 - 9:53 PM |
In Memory of my daughter Kristen - 12/6/87 - 9/11/07
I lost my daughter in a car accident on Sept. 11, 2007. She was 19 years old. I am new here so this is a little difficult for me. I find it extremely hard to make it through the days. Just always so sad and wonder if it will ever get better. I have all the information for the compassionate friends but dont feel I am ready yet. I am so sorry to everyone for all your losses. Just would like to know what you do to make it a little easier. You can visit my daughters memorial page to learn a little about her.http://kristentheresaohara.memory-of.com/tributes.aspx Love to you all |
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Karen, Katie's Mom
Jul 31st, 2008 - 8:26 AM |
Re: In Memory of my daughter Kristen - 12/6/87 - 9/11/07
Dear Agnes, I am so sorry for your loss. It is coming up on a year now for us, and the days are full of memories; I feel very emotional. What I do that helps me: write alot (I have a blog and Katie has a caringbridge.org page). I walk 3-6 miles a day, and run a little. I read good books, and get a massage as often as possible. I avoid superficial social contacts, and have not resumed alot of the old relationships that were not close ones. I keep my life as simple as possible, paying attention first and foremost to my surviving son (he is 15 and a half) and my husband. I hope some of these things may help you. I am not a "group" person, so I haven't tried CF, either, though I hear they are great. I have visited their website. May God bless your dear grieving heart. www.karengberger.blogspot.com www.caringbridge.org/visit/katiegerstenberger |
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Loraine Adams
Jul 31st, 2008 - 6:54 PM |
Re: In Memory of my daughter Kristen - 12/6/87 - 9/11/07
I am so very sorry for your loss. My son died suddenly almost three years ago, it has been a long haul and still is. However, the deep grief seems to be lessening somewhat and I try to adapt to the reality of a different life. I visited Kristen's website and it is a remarkable story that all these people were able to be given life from such a tragedy. The website is very touching and a tribute to a wonderful daughter. Blessings, Loraine Campbell's Mum 1978 - 2005 |
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Angel (Bre's Mommy-2/24/95 - 9/17/06)
Jul 31st, 2008 - 7:01 PM |
Re: In Memory of my daughter Kristen - 12/6/87 - 9/11/07
Agnus, I have spent a better part of today getting to know your beautiful Kristen through her memorial site. Beautiful inside and out, Kristen touched so many lives. I had to stop reading ever so often b/c I couldn't see through the tears. The pain in your words, the feelings of dispair, the gut-wrenching ache to hold her all hit too close to home for me. I could literally feel every emotion you wrote of. I also lost my little girl, Breanna Angel Lindsay, in a car accident on Sept. 17th, 2006. Bre was 11yrs 6months and 24days old when she was ripped from my life. I performed CPR on her for an hour before the ambulance arrived that day, she was pronounced dead on scene. In a split second everything I knew and loved was gone, just like that my world ended. Bre was my only child, my best friend, my hopes and my dreams. Sometimes I am certain that this pain will most definitely kill me yet somehow I continue to breathe in and breathe out. It seems Bre and Kristen possessed so many of the same qualities although they were several yrs apart in age. My heart aches for you, my eyes cry for you b/c I know all to well the pain you are in and what lies ahead. It has changed for me is some ways but I honestly can't say its gotten any better - just different. TCF and Bereaved Parents of the USA have been helpful to me, I attend both each month. I think sometimes I go because when I hear about someone elses pain, I can at least escape the intensity of my own. What an awful reason to go it seems but sadly it's true. I do find that talking to parents who know what this hell is really like and who will not judge me has been helpful. Some of my closest friends are ones I've met through these groups, others I met here on griefhaven. You and your beautiful Kristen will forever be in my thoughts. Please remember to be kind to yourself if nothing else and know that there is always someone here that understands your pain. BigBreezyHugs, Angel(Breanna's Mommy) www.breezyliveson.webs.com |
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Agnes O'Hara
Jul 31st, 2008 - 8:30 PM |
Re: In Memory of my daughter Kristen - 12/6/87 - 9/11/07
Thank you everyone for your beautiful words. Angel your daughters website is beautiful. I also thank you for visiting Kristen's website. And I know my daughter has her arms wrapped around your daughter and will be with her always. Thats the kind of girl Kristen was. She had a heart of gold. Love to you all |
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Agnes O'Hara
Jul 31st, 2008 - 8:49 PM |
Re: In Memory of my daughter Kristen - 12/6/87 - 9/11/07
Karen, Your daughters website is beautiful. Sometimes we think we have it so bad to find someone elses pain is even worse, if that is at all possible. Love to you Agnes(kristens mom) |
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Karen, Katie's Mom
Aug 1st, 2008 - 8:24 AM |
Re: In Memory of my daughter Kristen - 12/6/87 - 9/11/07
Dear Agnes, I just visited Kristen's website. What a beautiful tribute to her. She was lovely, and it looks as if she had a very full life in her 19 years. The fact that you thought to donate her organs shows how very loving, generous and compassionate you are. Those who receive her organs are going to love you & Kristen forever. Two more things about what helps: one is that on some days it just hurts, and I have to ride that hurt out, like a big wave. The second thing is that I forgot to say is that prayer helps, but I can see from Kristen's website that you know that already. May you feel held in the love of God, each step of the way. Karen (Katie's mom) www.caringbridge.org/visit/katiegerstenberger www.karengberger.blogspot.com |
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Jeremy & Sam's Mom, Shirley
Aug 6th, 2008 - 5:27 AM |
Re: In Memory of my daughter Kristen - 12/6/87 - 9/11/07
Agnes - I'm so sorry for the loss of your wonderful daughter. My son died of suicide on 9/11/2007 - he was 35 and had a wife and two young sons. How he could leave us, we'll never know. He was smiling his crooked smile, teasing his wife and playing with his sons just one week before the suicide at a family get-together. There were no reasons why, no note, nothing - so we will never know the "whys". But that doesn't diminish the anguish we are living with every day. My oldest son gone...16 years after my second son's death. I miss them both. always, Shirley |
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JoBeth Fitzpatrick
Aug 6th, 2008 - 7:42 AM |
Re: In Memory of my daughter Kristen - 12/6/87 - 9/11/07
What a beautiful daughter you have there. You did a wonderful job on her memorial site. I too lost a beautiful daughter on Memorial day 2005 in a car accident. Her name is Sara and she was 16. Oh how my heart breaks everyday. JoBeth Sara's mom |
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Joan Tolsma
Aug 7th, 2008 - 8:49 AM |
Re: In Memory of my daughter Kristen - 12/6/87 - 9/11/07
A friend of mine had given me this site to read as my 27 year old daughter Megan passed away in April, 2008 from gastric cancer. She was married and has a 2 year old daughter that makes her death so hard to deal with. She loved being a mother to her little girl! Your message and web site for your daughter are so nice. We are hoping to do something like that for our daughter also. Just this morning, Megan's 23 year old sister called to say that she was having a really bad day, thinking of her sister. It is so difficult to find the strength to tell her that we need to continue on...but that we need to also grieve for our loss. We all miss Megan so terribly much. God bless you for sharing to those of us who are searching for ways to cope with our losses. Megan's web site www.caringbridge.org/visit/meganoconnor With a thankful heart! |
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Kim - Joseph's Mommy
Aug 16th, 2008 - 6:57 AM |
Re: In Memory of my daughter Kristen - 12/6/87 - 9/11/07
Dear Agnes - Thank you for sharing your beautiful daughter Kristin with all of us here that never got to know her. She is so beautiful inside and out - feisty, alive and something tells me she left her mark all her life with anyone that ever met her even once.....Every post, picture, poem, song communicates everything you shared and deserve to honor and tribute and remember and share out loud. Your words that you share of your beautiful daughter Kristin are pure and a tender magical gift to know this kind of relationship you shared with her is unique and why it is so pure even to a perfect stranger. I hope somehow this honors the loss and the joy side by side. You had a unique love and can embrace this all ways, always until you meet again....It is impossible to not notice the exhuberance and energy of living that Kristin gave to all who knew her. It comes across even in the tiny thumnail photos on the site. She lived, loved and gave such joy to all who crossed her paths. My heart is breaking with you this early Saturday morning....I open my laptop and start my harder mornings right here at griefhaven to feel a moment or two or 60 to connect before trying to pull myself up to literally go force the day to begin and unfold in its natural but harder reality. Griefhaven gives me the push to know and trust there are so many of us walkking this planet feeling this loss, sadness, drain of finding the places to feel just neutral or safe, not happy or fine or fake. Time is healing this loss in such a shift that makes it easier to me to just keep it inside except with strangers where it leaks out casually because there is no escape when the qestions come out. Come to griefhaven any time to know you are with good company even if we cannot talk live - we understand and get it more than anywhere else in my day. My only son died almost 3 years ago suddenly, randomly and there is no understanding to the why him and why us yet. Just pray it will make sense when we meet again and until then I goout to face the world hoping for an earth angel to remind me he is right here and I am not alone.... i cry with you and I'm sending ehugs to you this Saturday morn' Joseph's mommy forever. |
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